A Puzzling Proposition: The Dilemma

So as I mentioned in part one there was a flip side to this and here it is. I’m going to give a rather quick summary of the other point in the “triangle” If you want more info I can fill you in personally.

Alright so here we go. So there is a guy I met, via Facebook… don’t judge I think it’s a perfectly acceptable social networking tool so stuff it you fuddy duddies! Anyway I met this gentleman (not using his name because I don’t know if he’d like it that I was chattering on about him. If you were smart you’ll be able to use Facebook and figure out who he is. So he’s from the east coast and is a Lance Corporal, I believe in the United States Marine Corps. Oh and did I mention he’s Chinese?! Now your heart can start beating normally again I’m not chasing an all American blue eyed boy. So, I’ve talked to him for just over a month now. We speak daily either via TXT or chat depending. It’s not anything too deep and sticky, I should say, just getting to know each other better, talking about our days and such. We seem to agree on a lot of things and just enjoy talking to each other. It’s nice to wake up and have a message from him. It really brightens my day. And we’ve been talking and he has a lot of leave and at the moment is planning a four-ish day trip to Colorado to meet me. The original pretense was to snowboard but it doesn’t look like he will be doing that at all. Now here’s the problem.

I just don’t know his intentions. My jumpy female mind says, “Oh he doesn’t want to get serious with you, surely he doesn’t, buut then again he’s traveling across the country to see you that probably isn’t just a transcontinental booty call.” And we haven’t actually broached the subject of what our goals in this “acquaintance-ship” are, and if it’s alright for me to mention I think I might want to give a relationship a go, but I just don’t know where he stands which is frustrating with this new twist.

And here’s the twist. So remember Mr. Nightclub guy from the previous post? Yeah, that guy. Well he obviously made his intentions very clear that he would like to see me again and not just for coffee and to chat about the latest issue of People magazine, he even professed to my friend, “I totally dig your friend” sort of thing, and with his prompt follow up I think he’s at least mildly serious. And so now what do I do? I mean Mr. Nightclub is a real dear heart, we hit it off immediately and he’s stable and not to mention closer then the east coast. But on that same note, I think I probably know Mr. Marine much better and longer, and he’s at least attempted to make some more seriously chivalrous gestures… And let’s be honest you can’t argue with that uniform. And so I’m torn because I don’t know where I stand with Mr. Marine and I don’t want to give Mr. Nightclub an immediate answer that I may regret and will deprive Mr. Marine of his chance to give his pitch. And I can’t say whether he will actually appear to see me, he’s so far away and let’s face it, people don’t always hold to their word even when we want them to. *sigh* I mostly just want to know what Mr. Marine is thinking, if it’s “Well let’s just be good friends” or “I want you to be the one I come back from deployment to.”
Now perhaps I’m just thinking too hard about this but, really it just worries the dickens out of me because things when a little topsy-turvy in one night and now I’ve got a bit of a mess to clean up and somehow manage not to hurt anyone including myself in the process.

So let me know what you are thinking, cause I could sure use some advice, and some logical and “tell it to me straight” right now.

And if you had a hard time following along… a flowchart.
~Ms. Me~
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Mr. Nightclub Mr. Marine